Guilt

I felt so awefull when J. was looking at Gracie who had to try on her school clothes. She would look at the dresses and skirts and say, "I wish my mom would buy those kinds of things for me." Repeatedly those comments dug into me. I know she will not get such things left to her mother to provide them. I get the impression her mom detests girlish things and discourages feminine behavior, which Steve has said I am right on in my thinking. Girl things, especially dolls and dresses and pink have always recieved sarcasm and snide remarks to the point J. often expressed upon first meeting she was a tomboy and even as late as recently made comments about wanting to be a boy. Hell, she gave Steve a book last Christmas about how to talk to and raise a daughter ... it was a piece of shit little book that answered q's on puberty and such, and the comment was "I don't know how to raise a girl." Stupid cow, she is supposed to be a grown woman and can't figure out how to raise her daughter. Blows my mind and makes her intelligence highly questionable. Anywho ... I took back a pair of shoes for myself and got the very last pair of clogs for J. based on the morning comment, "At first I did not like the shoes you got yesterday but I really like them, they are cool and very comfy." The comments on the dresses got to me too. I went back and got her one of the plaid drop waist dresses she admired, with the knowledge the clothes were to be worn to school but returned here and not considered part of her wardrobe at her mom's. If we buy school clothes, it will become expected and her mother will not spend the child support on J., she will find other uses for it. Yes, it happens, we have seen it. J. rarely comes back with anything when they go shopping. It pisses me off and Steven too, sometimes I think some ppl should be accountable for the child-support and how it is spent. I have only see 2 outfits in a year that her mom bought new. We have school pics of J. in the exact same clothes from the year before and you can see the wear and age in them ... Grrrr... I should shut up.