« Journal Stuff | Main | Modern Medieval Medicine »
June 28, 2005
It's A Very Good Life
Before Steven and I met face to face we talked on the phone every morning, every night, more and more and more. Eventually we were talking several times a day and hours and hours on the weekend. It was nothing for him to call at 7pm and we would talk till midnight or later. In that time you get to know a person and to trust their words according to the tone of their voice.
I knew up front he never intended to marry again or to have other children. I chided him often. I would tell him how much of a disservice he did to himself banning everyone from his life based on the shitty experience with his ex-wife. I told him one day a woman would come along and be worthy of his heart. He shouldn't deny himself real happiness. Eventually he grudgingly agreed maybe someone out there was worthy of his trust and devotion.
About a month later he said to me, "One day I am going to ask you to marry me." I believed him.
We talked about children. He once told me that he never wanted another child. For several reasons. One children are used as weapons by some women. Two he didn't think he could love another child like his first. Three he didn't think J. would grow accustomed to impact of another child, so he didn't plan on having another. I could fully understand the first. I told him the second was a crock. Love grows it doesn't take away. The third I got angry with him. I told him if he ever met a nice woman that he could he should tell her up front so she can walk away if she so chooses. I fussed about how he was letting a child make decisions for his future and the future of the woman who did come into his life.
About a week later he told me he had given real thought to the issue and concluded once again I was right. He had never looked at it that way before and it was in no way fare to the woman who might win his heart.
Eventually he did ask me to marry him. Then he bought us a farm and moved us back to the country where I belong. He also gave me a great cool car the day after Mother's Day. We have lived happily every after.
Until a few weeks ago. I have been very sick. Tired beyond tired. Snotty nose, slight cough. As my symptoms worsened and I became sicker each day I decided I should make an appointment to see a doctor. I knew without a doubt what the diagnosis would be. Steven would not believe it until a PhD confirmed it. I have been on the couch for the past two weeks. Sicker than sick. He has been so worried.
I went to the doctor today.
I married a geek I met on the net.
And then we bought a farm.
And then he gave me a cool car.
And then he gave me a baby.
Shhhhhhhh ... I am not supposed to tell anyone until the family knows but I can't keep quiet any longer. It is our secret. O'kay?
Posted by Angie at June 28, 2005 05:21 PM
Comments
Oh my God Angie!! I am crying. Again. I had to stop myself from picking up the phone and screaming in your ear. I am so happy for you!!
WOW!!!!!!!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Now, I need to start planning a blog baby shower ;-)
Posted by: MommaK at June 28, 2005 05:32 PM
Congrats!
Posted by: Flat at June 28, 2005 06:25 PM
Somehow I think midnight feedings and colic will slow you down.
I'm so happy!!
Congratulations to you all!
Posted by: Susie Sunshine at June 28, 2005 06:34 PM
Dammit,a kid hit post for me.
I meant I DON'T think midnight feedings will slow you down.
You can obviously tell that kidlets have done a number on me though. :-)
Posted by: Susie Sunshine at June 28, 2005 06:35 PM
Congratulations!!!!
Awaiting the blessed event!
~K!
Posted by: Kismet at June 28, 2005 07:47 PM
YAHOOO!!!!! Feel free to name her Karan. :)
Posted by: Karan at June 28, 2005 08:14 PM
Congratulations, Anglie! That's wonderful news.
Posted by: Raehan at June 28, 2005 08:26 PM
Sending warm, happy thoughts from here at the Grand Canyon. I am very happy for you, Steven, Colby, Gracie, and J.
Life is good.
Posted by: MistressMary at June 28, 2005 08:30 PM
Congrats on the new member of the family. That is great news.
I hope all the kids are as excited as you. What a blessing the baby will be. Babies are wonderful, cant wait to hear all about it.
Posted by: kate at June 28, 2005 08:40 PM
WHHAAAAAA-HOOOOOOO!! I'm so thrilled for you!!!!
Grinning profusely here!!!!
YEEEEAHHHHH!!!
Posted by: G~ at June 28, 2005 09:17 PM
I am happier than a pig at Passover. (I don't know if that's happy, but it is a nice alliteration.)
Felicitations, Wonder Woman. Now lay your machete down and don't strain no more.
(P.S. I don't know what's with that suggestion above that you name "her" Karan. Naturally, you will want to name "him" Hoss.)
Steven, I hope you're as happy as all of Angie's fans are. If you are, you are completely overjoyed.
Posted by: Old Horsetail Snake at June 28, 2005 10:08 PM
Angie- This is so, so wondefrul- this little one is so lucky indeed! Congrat.s to all- I bet you and Steven and the girls,are just over the moon!
P.S. sorry your feeling so bad though-I bet this news today made all that worth it- hang in there.
Posted by: jakapk at June 28, 2005 11:23 PM
I'm so smiling about your secret. Hope you stop getting sick very soon!! We want a full detailed account at the reaction when you announce the news. Congratulations and best wishes. At least we know after reading Susie you won't be naming the child Landon, lol.
Posted by: Hope at June 29, 2005 12:26 AM
OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!! Angie! Wow.
You could knock me over with a feather. I am so so happy for you guys. Congratulations!!!!
Posted by: Jenny at June 29, 2005 01:39 AM
Wonderful ! Perfect ! I'm so happy for all of you !
Posted by: sue at June 29, 2005 05:03 AM
Congratulations! I can't wait to follow your pregnancy hear on the blog. I do hope you feel better soon!
Posted by: Meredith at June 29, 2005 08:50 AM
HAA!!!!
I actually clapped my hands and squealed like a pig!
Congrats! Congrats! Congrats!
Posted by: Michele at June 29, 2005 11:21 AM
Yay! Yay! Yay!!! Congratulations girlfriend!! My lips are sealed!
Posted by: J&J's Mom at June 29, 2005 11:40 AM
Love grows--it doesn't take away. Lovely! Congratulations!! MommaK sent me.
Posted by: bonnie at June 29, 2005 12:03 PM
Woo hoo! Congratulations, Angie! I'm so happy for you!
FWIW, my pregnancies/births were high risk and I had a doula both times even though I delivered in the hospital with many interventions. She was wonderful. The boy child was a c-section and they allowed her to come into the OR and hold my hand during his delivery. Then DH was able to spend every moment with the baby while the doula stayed with me in recovery, rubbing my feet and legs and listening to all my morphine-induced ravings. She was there when the girl child was born via VBAC 19 months later, as well.
Posted by: Badger at June 29, 2005 01:14 PM
Congratulations!
Posted by: liz at June 29, 2005 01:16 PM
OH MY GOD, I knew it, when I got sent here by Momma K saying there was some news, I just knew it! YAY, congrats and oh my god I'm so jealous!!! But very happy too! :) This is gonna be SO FUN to share with you....you are sharing with us right? :) hahahahaha!
Posted by: TwistofKate at June 29, 2005 01:45 PM
That is really exciting! I really miss being pregnant!
Posted by: lrstan at June 29, 2005 04:50 PM
Here from MommaK's site...CONGRATULATIONS! That's so exciting!!!!
Posted by: True Jersey Girl at June 29, 2005 09:37 PM
Wonderful news! And a story beautifully told.I wish you the best of pregnancies and a healthy baby! Contratulations!
Posted by: Unga Chunga at June 29, 2005 09:46 PM
So, I followed your instructions to read the previous, smiling to myself as I was reading. AWESOME!! Your answers sounded just like what I might say! You are blessed! Yours, mine and ours -works fabulously when love is the central mix. Couldn't be happier for you! Also just got your link fixed. Want to be Angie, Home Grown (or Home Growing as it stands), Big Red Couch...? Do Tell.
Big Hug, smile and delight from virtual reality at my home.
Posted by: Crock Pot Mom at June 30, 2005 07:42 PM
oooooohhh,
there's the news I was looking for!
all the best!
too exciting!!!!!
Posted by: blackbird at July 7, 2005 08:14 AM