Shame On You
People, be warned, I am pointing a finger this morning - Two weeks ago, Target: Woman pushing a shopping cart with 4 year old girl child in the seat. The child snatching and grabbing at the mother's shirt. The mother telling the child she could nurse after they finished shopping. The child demanding to nurse NOW! and the mother stopping in the isle and letting her nurse now!!! SHAME ON YOU! People!!! Do I have to tell you what is wrong with this picture?!? Four year old children should not be breastfeeding and damn well not in public. A four year old has a full set of teeth and can eat as well as you or I. That child does not need to be breastfed and damn well not in public!!! Give her a chicken leg or a sandwich for heaven's sake!! Yesterday, Walmart: Standing at the checkout with my giant bag of Pampers Swaddlers, a blouse, and two pairs of REALLY cute sandles for my kids and a few grocery items, glancing over at the register beside me- Cashier to Young Mother: "How old are your boys?" Young Mother, smiling brightly: "5 and 3." Cashier scans bags of diapers in two sizes. Five year old says to Young Mother: "I just went. Now you have to change me before we go home." Young Woman: "O'kay." THEN ... AND THEN!! ... she has the cashier void her purchases while she takes the boy into the bathroom to change his diaper. SHAME! SHAME! SHAME ON YO0U!!! WTF?!?! A five year old who is not potty trained is a clear indication that you are one lazy assed poor excuse for a mother! It is also the reason why your five year old is not in public school!! Schools do not accept children who are not potty trained. While you think you are loving your child to the maximum you are doing your child a world of hurt. I can see the mental disorders developing now!! I would so have spanked me one little ass. He would have long ago learned how to use the toilet!!! If you see yourself in either of these instances and are dually pissed off ... that is a clear indication we would not be friends IRL anyway ... and I won't be issuing an apology to sooth your ruffled feathers. Now it is your turn ... what have you seen in public that caused you to say "WTF?!?" and want to shake a parent until their teeth rattled and their eyes rolled back in their head? P.S. I saved you the gag-a-trocious personal encounter with the tiny little girl trying to talk to me while she was picking her nose and had boogars hanging from her face while she asked her Dad for a tissue and he slapped her hand down from her nose and told her he didn't have one. You know a real parent would have gotten a package of tissue and opened them and used a few on the spot and might even have gone so far as to have taken the hem of their t-shirt and wiped that child's nose!!! Oh, hell, yes, I have used my shirt to wipe my kids noses. I have licked my finger and used it to clean a dirty smudged little mouth or face!!! (Which makes Steven gag. He hates when his mother does it to the grandkids. LOL) So don't even think about saying "eww", "yuck", or "gross". A little spit and snot doesn't scare me -its just OTHER people's kid's spit and snot that make me gag ...
Children 4 years and older in strollers with pacifiers. Or better yet...a 'baba'. Damn baby talkin' kids. "BOTTTTTLE" the word is "Bottle" how the hell can your child every learn to speak correctly if you aren't?
Ooops... your soapbox...not mine. Sorry. Thanks for the post idea though!! I'm with you 100%!!
I am with you too, Angie. People are too lazy to teach their children how to do anything, and then as soon as they can use the toilet - they are shuffled off to day care.
I hate seeing a snot-nosed kid, mine or others!
First, the post of Gracie and her lil' brother is priceless. What a smile!! :)
My WTF moment: a few weeks ago while standing in line at the grocery store, a little boy kept hitting his sister. They both looked to be about 7 or 8 years old. She kept whining about it and the mom kept saying,
"if you don't stop that, you're going to get a time out".
"I'm warning you, you're going to get a time out."
on and on. But he kept hitting, and she never did a single thing other than sound like a broken record.
I'd hate to see these kids in action at home!
This isn't a comment relating to a parent/child issue, but it did happen in a public place and it did gross me out.
At the grocery store I watched a lady putting bulk candy into a bag, with her HANDS, while also EATING candy from the same bin.
My days of buying bulk candy are over.
Oh, Angie. That was hilarious.
Did I tell you Rachel still wears diap.....wait she wants me to change her I'll finish this later.
KIDDING!!!
it's a matter of who's in charge, isn't it? Parents are afraid to be in charge these days.
Honestly, I don't come across that kind of thing too often here. But then again, we don't have a Walmart nearby, so we don't frequent there. God, there prices are good, though.
My daughter was taking care of a 4 year old who was a foster child while his foster mom worked, he had not been potty trained. She understood why he had not been prior, but was disgusted with having to clean up after a child that old. Also, try as she could to help train him the mom seemed to find it convenient to have him in diapers. Sad situation and he has since been adopted by the woman. Hopefully, he is not still in diapers. BTW this little boy was very smart.
The bulk food items make me quesy as do salad bars and buffets. I'd sooner eat at a trough.
Delurking here:
Hi! Just want to say I love reading your blog! My fiancée and I have been talking about having children in the last few months and since then we have been reading blogs of other parents (so we know the reality of what we would be getting into!!). Anyways, I had one of the strangest WTF moments at the DMV this past Wed. As I was waiting patiently for my number to be called a woman and her 3 girls sat down near me. I glanced up and then continued to read my book. The girls were playing and giggling quietly in the corner when one asked their mom to play something with them. And the mother responded with “Why don’t you go play in traffic??� WTF?! Her daughter doesn’t even bat an eyelash. 2 mins later the girls get up and show their mom a little disco dance (you know the one…John Travolta trying to stay alive) and she says “Get away from me. You are embarrassing me. I don’t even know you!� WTF?! I had enough and looked at the woman and told her “thank you, I now know what I will NEVER say to my children if I have any.� And then moved to another seat. I was just shocked!
Anyways, keep up the good work! I love to read everything you have to say and your children are just beautiful! Thanks for a slice of enjoyment during my day.
I am completly 100% on your page!
I cant even mention just one situation that I think WTF? because I spend alot of time with kids and around kids and see it all the frickin time!
When I see a toddler in the front seat of a car or bouncing around the backseat- clearly NOT in a seat belt, I want to make a citizen's arrest. When I see a little kid who's teeth are rotting out of her mouth in the lunch room each week, I want to smack her mother. When I have a kid in tears because her mother can't get off of her fat ass to come to a Brownie meeting and this little girl is the only one without a parent in the room - I want to punch that mother. Let's go on a spree?? You have the bigger truck - we'll take it out and start smackin!
loveb you! just love you! My wtf's are the mom's who yell and yell and scream and say NO and then laugh while the kid keeps doing whatever it is...Lazy! Shame! Get off your butt and stop being a shrew and start being a parent!
I'm still kinda shocked that you even witnessed this!
As the mother of a four year old ( almost 5 year old) I can NOT even IMAGINE still nursing him and or changing his diapers. Heck I've been teaching him how to cut his own food! And he even helps me make the juice and or dinner!
Also as the mother of a two year old who is still teething * or will be 2 on the 15th of March* the boogers are everywhere.. I have used the mitten in my pocket, the shirt on their backs, I have even as you said taken a box of tissue off the shelf and opened it right there. Leaving the booger there because "he didn't have anything" I would have said somthing to that parent.
So what have I seen?? The mother of a 6 year old, standing in the soother aisle of WalMart, telling her child to pick a new one. Child with soother already in mouth points and says that one. She goes to pick it up, no says the child the blue one with the red bugs on it. My jaw nearly hit the floor on that one.
It was at least -14 C the other day, and I saw two younger parents with a baby about 10 months old. The baby was stocking feet with a small blanket wrapped around it. No hat, no boots. HELLO!!!
Okay I could go on and on here.. It's sad isn't it.
No effing way. I don't have kids but shit, people. That's just rediculous. What a bunch of lazy weirdos. Your site rocks. I love pointing my finger too. People just make it so damn easy don't they!
Mom-lick... my kids hated it but I sure as heck used it often. It's the universal solvent; face cleaner, hair gel, and probably other things I havn't thought of. A parent that totally pissed me off? Today. At the movies. Harry Potter at the dollar movie so you really don't expect decent behavior for that price but, the 3 year old little darling should not have been there. She couldn't shut up and they wouldn't even try and explain to her that a move is somewhere you should rey and be QUIET. All the dirty looks from everyone else, including me only got the smart ass dad smiling and waving back. How STUPID?? And don't even get me started on kids (who aren't infants) and pacifiers....
I am so glad I'm not the only person who feels as you do!
I have a friend who thinks similar to us who has a sister-in-law who is still nursing 5 - almost 6 year olds. It is just gross!!! My friend is convinced that someone will call DSS and turn her in for inappropriate behavior... The husband is at the end of his rope...
So, you are not alone in your disgust of these people!!
xo
LadyBug
I had to stop reading another blog because I would go nuts reading about her nursing her 3 year old and making no attempts to potty train either of her children. I am all for "doing what works for your children" and not judging, but good grief there are times to be a PARENT and not your child's play toy. Set some limits.
The man at CiCi's pizza with his two girls. You know, buffet pizza for $3.99, and of course they have a game room for the kiddos. One was maybe 9 or 10. The other maybe 5 or 6. The younger of the two was having a tantrum. She hadn't won the prize she wanted. I thought maybe she was hurt. But no, there she is, wailing because he's trying to get her to leave. "Just one more dollar daddy. Please, please, please" like her life is going to end. "Come on sweetie" says the dad. It's time to go. "NOOOOOO!" wailed the little girl. So, dad proceeds to pull out his wallet. "OK, I'll make a deal with you, if you promise not to cry anymore, I'll give you one more dollar. Then we're leaving, but no more tears." She runs off gleefully with the dollar. Older sister glares after her. Little sister comes back with a quarter, eyes full of tears, again, wailing. "Daddy! I only have one more quarter! Please come help me win, please, please, please." Daddy goes off with the little girl to spend the last quarter. She doesn't win. He has to practically drag her, kicking and screaming, out of the CiCi's because she didn't win. Oh. My. God. My kids know the rule. They each get a dollar. Once that dollar is gone, they are done with the games. Sometimes if they've been really good, they get two dollars. How did they learn this? I set down the rule. They tried to wheedle and whine their way out of it. As they stood there whining and complaining, I ignored them. If I was done with my food, I would pack up and leave and wait for them in the car. They would stand there, before finally joining me out in the car. The next time they complained a little less. Now they don't complain at all.
If my kids are having a temper tantrum anywhere even in public, I tell them "I'm sorry you're embarassing yourself. I'll wait for you over there." And I walk away, out of sight, but not out of earshot. They continue to tantrum, then when they realize I'm not watching, they stop.
Angie, really you should have a "Straight Talk" radio show. You'd be a hit!
Here from MommaK's site with her new award!
You have really given me the courage to speak out against this stuff. I've always been afraid of offending someone.
A few years ago, I tried to do my own daycare. I quit, because 1. I made almost no money, because people would try to jip me and 2. some of the parents just didn't care about their kid. Which makes it pretty damn hard to care for their child in turn!
I had a 4 year old boy - almost 5 - who wasn't potty trained either. I was sooo disgusted. I did end up eliminating he and his brother when the mom wanted me to get paid through Social Services - I wasn't licensed yet and did not have the funds to do that either.
The nursing - I have yet to see that, but I find it comical to read the debates that go on about it (like on mothering.com).
I don't see anything wrong with a 5 year old child still wanting to be breastfed! I also don't see why you all are making such a BIG FUSS about a 5 year old ( or older) still in diapers!
I really believe that you all should get your act together and not worry about older children wearing diapers or still breastfeeding!!.
Whenever the child is ready to stop breastfeeding I'm sure that He / She will let their mother know! ( Same applies to wearing diapers!)