Take Another Tack

Thank you guys for reassuring me. I really needed the support. You see, Steve counts on me to be his pillar to lean on when things get rough. He expects me to be able to cut through the emotions and have a level headed, distanced view and opinion in situations where he is bogged down in emotion. And the same thing applies to me. This makes us a team. We are a united front. Thank you all for the suggestions. The job was offered 5 months ago. It has long been filled. So no, that is not even an option. We talked about this a great deal yesterday. He called through his day and we talked last night. This is our home. We don't plan to leave it. We are building a life for ourselves. No, we will not go traipsing off behind an ex-spouse for any reason. They have a life to live and so do we. Seriously, what you know of me do I appear to be the type that would do such a thing? Ha! Never! Yes, this is very stressful. But it is also very liberating. Steve and I are the type of people who don't swing back and forth very often on issues we have already decided. He made up his own mind on a course of action. Now that the pearls have been cast the getting used to the idea has to take place. That is where he was last night. Resigning himself to what may (or may not) happened in the future. Nothing is set in stone at this point. Everything could stay the same as it is now or things could change. Getting used to the idea of a change I think is part of the healing and a huge coping method that gets one through one upset before the second shoe drops. There wil be no moping around and being a sadsack. Nothing is going to change any time soon. I refuse to let what may happen (at some point in the future that we can't even pin point now) pull us down. No time for that. Life is for living now. We have a lot of living to do before we have to face any such plan as suggested. You can't enjoy today if you have to keep worrying about tomorrow. I am resigned to letting the tomorrows take care of themselves for a while. If they can't, well, they will just have to wait until I get there to deal with them. Workers are coming today to begin the last of the construction on our pool. Finally! I'll take pictures. In other news. I took a sledge hammer to my kitchen. Oh, yes, I did. I decided that since we spent the budget earmarked for the kitchen remodeling on living expenses for the past 5 month that there must be a MUCH less expensive way to make things happen and to have a kitchen that functions better than the one we have now. I'll let you know the outcome. Right now I am painting some cabinetry and working out the details in my head. Did I tell you we have a new dining table? Just to give you an idea of what my kitchen is like - the table is 12 feet long. Yes! 12! I could add another 6 or so feet to it and still have plenty of room in here. Here being my laptop is setup in the kitchen so I can surf do-it-yourself projects inbetween coats of primer and paint.