In The End
After dealing with sick children for a week I found myself flat on my back so very sick I just wanted to cry.
Steve took a day off to help me with Steven.
This is so not funny I want to cry again.
He slept all day, either by the fire or in the bed and didn't help me at all.
People he wasn't sick. Sick and tired of the BS he was having at work but physically battling that virus he was not.
Thinking about it now makes me angry because in his mind he did everything friday. How laughable, he didn't fix his own lunch or dinner and to ask him to do something drew filthy looks and smartass remarks. He even went back to bed at 8pm. Yet he tellspeople he was at home taking care of me and Steven.
Now we all have headcolds. The nasty clogged sinus, you can't breath, but you have to blow every 5 minutes, geesh my head hurts and my body aches kind of head cold. He is even more grouchy and mean. He lays in the floor by the fire acting like he is providing sole care for Steven meanwhile I am picking up behind them all, cooking supper, doing laundry. If I sit down at my laptop to check email or to look at the farm forum I belong to he throws it back at me that it is all I do. WTH?
I am on a short rope this week. Someone might get hung with it, too.
Yikes...I wouldn't mess with you. Funny how they think they save the world while lying on their backs. Good luck, sweetie. I hope you feel better soon so you guys don't end up on the news. ;)
Gah! Men. You know what mine used to do, every single Mother's Day? The ONE day I wanted a little time to myself (no jewelry, no flowers, just SOME ME TIME)? Take a four-hour nap. Every fucking year. Drove me NUTS.
He has learned his lesson, though. And I have no doubt Steve is in for an education as well. ;)
I feel for you, honey. You're easily working a full-time job with all those kids and animals and running the household. To have to do it while you're sick is bad enough. To get that kind of "help" is just galling. Hope he comes to his senses.
Hmm, sounds like he might have caught that "teenaged self entitlement" virus that's been going around. Hope he gets over it soon! ;)
You need to go on strike.
Didn't you know? We are never supposed to get sick! My husbands favorite thing to tell me when I am sick is that it's all in my head....I wish I could give him just one migraine to experience! I have spend the last couple of weeks sick too...it's a twice a year thing with me...last about six (no kidding) weeks or so each time. I think it scares them when we are sick and not in control. I hope you feel better Angie. A little hot buttered rum is great for a head cold!
What is it with men when we're sick? I remember when my baby was about 8 months old I had a terrible virus and was constantly vomitting. While I was laying down in bed, he comes in with the baby saying it's her nap time and she may as well just lay down with me because he wanted to go and mow the lawn!??? WTF! We are never allowed to be sick - but when they are, the world seems to stop turning.
Angie, I am sorry. That is exactly the way mr. kenju acts when I am sick. When he is sick, he lies in bed moaning and I have to be at his beck and call. When I am sick - it is business as usual.
Maybe you should take a day off and do nothing. That way, he would see how much you usually do and maybe he'd appreciate you more.
One would think men would have an appreciation of all we do, but sadly, they do not.
Men, can't live with em, can't shoot em.
~K!
He is home today. Laying in the bed moaning and making noises like a fool.
I am not playing nursemaid today.
I think I am going to take Steven and myself window shopping today. I am leaving the house around 10 am and don't plan to come home soon. But the flaw is that leaves him with a very quiet house and a very comfortable bed to lay in and sleep all day.
Perhaps we will watch nic or cartoon network all day. Really loud. Oh and it is icey and raining so ALL of the dogs have to be inside too.
Hmmmm....sounds like a certain man needs a visit from the cluestick posse.
I'm volunteering to come down and give him what for.
You've probably seen this already, but just in case you haven't...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXLHWmjA5IE
I hope you are just tired and cranky while writing this and just feel like giving him crap because he's the only one not sick, and he really didn't do nothing. Because if not... then that's just unacceptable!
Feel better soon... all of you.
That sucks, Angie.
I don't understand men sometimes. Any ask for help from them can be called "nagging." It definitely puts us women at a disadvantage. I just tell it like it is and take the groaning because someone has to stick up for the mom, even if it's the mom herself. I'm always going to bat for the underdog.
Hope everyone feels better soon.
A couple of weeks after you post it...I read your blog and had to laugh...laugh because I can relate SO well. It seems the days that I have the worst time at work or feel horrible or sick is the day he comes home and goes to sleep on the couch.
Hope everyone is better and stays better!